Initially I thought little J's going to be easier because he was pretty good in the first month. Slept well, cried only 15 to 20 mins before going off to sleep on his own. BUT, things started to change at about week 5... started to cry during naps and as the weeks progressed, the crying increased. On a worst day, he could cry throughout 3 out of 4 naps (final nap he will knock out because he is just too tired). For a long time, I was trying to figure out what was the cause of it, too cold, too hot, gas etc? Gave him aircon, music, etc......BUT, nothing worked... finally, we analysed and figured out the root cause. This boy wants to be carried and accompanied during naps.
Little J wants to be carried ALL the time... both during waketime and naptime.. thankfully, he is amazing good at night, sleeps by himself and does not disturb anyone. It's been tiring and draining because he fusses whenever we put him down during daytime. But we know he needs to learn and so we are trying to get used to his fussing. This boy does not enjoy being put on the bouncer or the rocker. He also does not enjoy watching his mobiles or any toys for that matter..... :( He just wants to be carried all the time. Oh my...
We have been insisting on the training, it's been 2plus weeks now.. this boy's been very persistent though... persistent in crying for attention during naps. I've been feeling really drained by the whole process, but I know I have no alternative but to go through the training process. If we give up, we will have to carry him all the time and it won't be good for our family in the long run, especially if we are looking to having some more children. As it is, his sister's been feeling a little neglected because of the attention we have been giving to him. Oh... I wish he will learn it soon. His sister took weeks too.........:(, we are praying really hard for him.
I am so thankful hubby's on leave these 2 weeks starting from today. God knows I need help at home and I need some relief from the stress and fatigue. Without someone else at home, I can't handle both of them, given little J cries so much.
The routine and sleep training for Candra challenged me tremendously. Thankfully we saw and enjoyed the fruits of our labour eventually. Now we are praying hard that God will grant us the same success with this difficult little J, for the good of him as well as the whole family. It takes so much patience and perseverance on my part... to wait for the day he will learn and finally give up. Training's tougher on the parents I think. For both Candra and Joshua, I experience the intense battle of wills during the training process.
My prayer in the training process is that God will cause him to give up at some points so he will still get some sleep. When he does not sleep at all, his feeding and waketimes get affected as well and it just becomes a terrible vicious cycle.
I am feeling so drained now... with occasional headaches attacking cos of the stress I believe... I am so so glad hubby's going to be home much more... so that I can rest. That's a grace from God I believe.
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