Some things happened at home yesterday which made me realise that Candra might have grown more attached to the confinement lady than to me. My my, my heart broke at that realisation that my child might have been turning to someone else for comfort more than me. That's probably because of a number of reasons. Well, my confinement lady is SUPER good with kids I tell you. She is good :) She has also been the one doing all the bathing, diaper changing, settling her to sleep etc over the past month. More importantly, Candra has been sleeping with her at night.
I have come to learn an important lesson. Children grow attached to people who spend the most time interacting with them. You may be the mother, but if someone else spends more time with your kid than you do, the attachment will definitely be weaker. I am thankful for the experience for it has taught me an important lesson, a lesson that will last a lifetime. Starting from yesterday, I started doing everything myself and thankfully, Candra's been responding well.
Hubby and I have been trying to discover what our parenting style is. I think right now, we are quite willing to spend time and effort building a stronger attachment between Candra and ourselves, to instill in her a deep sense of security in the home. Of course, there will be some training in the process (i.e. her sleep training and routine), but we really hope Candra will find herself really secure in this family.
Starting to wonder whether I can really go back to work and leave Candra in the care of someone else... hmm...
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Your instincts are true, my dear. Children are VERY intuitive. sad to say, that's the fact...they are attached to whoever they see most. =( I'll be praying for your thoughts on work, though you'd know where I stand. =)
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